Love Language
I read an article that talked about different Love Languages.
First of all, what's a Love Language? It simply means how one expresses their love/affection to others and how one would like to receive love/affection.
5 Broad Categories:
1) Physical Intimacy
It could be in the form of kisses, hugging or even holding hands
2) Create Quality Time Together
It means making time for your partner regardless how busy you are
First of all, what's a Love Language? It simply means how one expresses their love/affection to others and how one would like to receive love/affection.
5 Broad Categories:
1) Physical Intimacy
It could be in the form of kisses, hugging or even holding hands
2) Create Quality Time Together
It means making time for your partner regardless how busy you are
3) Presents/Gifts
Expressing your love/affection through the pressies picked specially for your partner
4) Caring Actions
It could be in the form of fulfilling basic needs such as earning a salary or simple tasks like whipping a meal
5) Appreciative Words
Saying thank you
4) Caring Actions
It could be in the form of fulfilling basic needs such as earning a salary or simple tasks like whipping a meal
5) Appreciative Words
Saying thank you
Have you ever thought that love can actually be expressed in many different forms. Most of us will show affection for people we love. But many times, we fail to recognize the correct "language". Instead, we express affection using the manner that we would like to receive affection, failing to recognize the differences in people.
For me, I ranked it in this manner, in the order of importance
1) Create Quality Time Together
2) Physical Intimacy
4) Appreciative Words
5) Presents/Gifts
Starting from the least importance..
~*~ Presents/Gifts ~*~
Content of the pressies is not important, what it matter is the thoughts.
If you notice, most of the Love Language is not tangible. In fact, the most tangible option, one that you can touch & feel physically is Presents/Gifts. We can always take out a pressie to look at it anytime.
Through the pressies, it also reflects how well you know a person. You can tell a difference between a well-thought present & a last-minute purchased one.
Moreover, pressies bring happiness & joys to both the giver and the receiver.
But, we cant be giving/receiving pressie everyday, so I decide that Presents/Gifts got to be my last option.
Something hard to do, especially for Asian people.
Just like you dun thank your mum for cooking dinner for you or your dad for giving you pocket money.
So we dun thank your bf for holding your bag or your gf for cooking a meal.
Still, I think we should not treat all these good gestures for granted, so appreciative words at time do warm the heart.
But again, saying "Thank you" for every single things sound a bit fake, or rather too polite.
If you notice, most of the Love Language is not tangible. In fact, the most tangible option, one that you can touch & feel physically is Presents/Gifts. We can always take out a pressie to look at it anytime.
Through the pressies, it also reflects how well you know a person. You can tell a difference between a well-thought present & a last-minute purchased one.
Moreover, pressies bring happiness & joys to both the giver and the receiver.
But, we cant be giving/receiving pressie everyday, so I decide that Presents/Gifts got to be my last option.
~*~ Appreciative Words ~*~
Something hard to do, especially for Asian people.
Just like you dun thank your mum for cooking dinner for you or your dad for giving you pocket money.
So we dun thank your bf for holding your bag or your gf for cooking a meal.
Still, I think we should not treat all these good gestures for granted, so appreciative words at time do warm the heart.
But again, saying "Thank you" for every single things sound a bit fake, or rather too polite.
~*~ Caring Actions ~*~
~*~ Physical Intimacy ~*~
~*~ Create Quality Time Together ~*~
Caring actions like my bf picking me up from a late dinner ( when he could have comfortably stay at home & play pc games) or even sending me home every time we go out do matter a lot to me.
Just that at this moment, the first 2 options will appear more important.
Just that at this moment, the first 2 options will appear more important.
~*~ Physical Intimacy ~*~
I rate this as my 2nd priority because it is again, something more tangible as there is physical contact.
When we dun see each other every day, the physical contact when we meet up again will provide an instantaneous connection. Imagine your USB cable... it works the same way => To transmit electricity from one end to another.
I also like the feeling of being held. Sometimes I will close my eyes to walk when I'm holding on to bf, it just feel safer this way.
When we dun see each other every day, the physical contact when we meet up again will provide an instantaneous connection. Imagine your USB cable... it works the same way => To transmit electricity from one end to another.
I also like the feeling of being held. Sometimes I will close my eyes to walk when I'm holding on to bf, it just feel safer this way.
~*~ Create Quality Time Together ~*~
This is my top priority because again we dun see each other every day. All of us are occupied with our own work, thoughts etc
Creating quality time together not necessary means that 2 persons need to stick to each other every moments. But rather spending a certain amount of time together, which would mean making effort despite of the work load, despite of your own desire to be alone at times.
To come together and do something together, have a good laugh and a hell of good times. That's how we foster better relationship, isnt it? A relationship is eventually companionship, so it's importance that we enjoy each other company.
Creating quality time together not necessary means that 2 persons need to stick to each other every moments. But rather spending a certain amount of time together, which would mean making effort despite of the work load, despite of your own desire to be alone at times.
To come together and do something together, have a good laugh and a hell of good times. That's how we foster better relationship, isnt it? A relationship is eventually companionship, so it's importance that we enjoy each other company.
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That's my own interpretation, quite similiar with bf's but not the same. So I'm sure yours will be different from mine too!
It's like showering your gf with presents when in fact, she just wants your accompany. Or pushing your bf away when he just wants to give you a hug in the public. Coz these are just their way of showing love.
Do it the right way and making efforts for love could be much simpler!! ^_^
It's like showering your gf with presents when in fact, she just wants your accompany. Or pushing your bf away when he just wants to give you a hug in the public. Coz these are just their way of showing love.
Do it the right way and making efforts for love could be much simpler!! ^_^
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